On the last event was by the way very interesting observing a couple on a first date. The girl was waiting for the guy for quite a long time and he wasn’t coming. She got a little nervous and went away. I couldn’t see them during the night because they were probably going around the museum where the café is situated in. But later when speeches started they showed up, finally both of them. She was very nervous around him and standing way too far from him and her torso and feet averted away from him but couldn’t stop looking at him. He was casual and calm, relaxed body language, smiling and sometimes looking away, he was probably aware of the fact she likes him but he was either playing he is not very much interested or he was genuinely not very much interested in her.
I was serving Prosecco and wine on that night. As I am a body language coach I know how to act around people and I kind of enjoy talking to new people, meeting them and I consider that as a test of my abilities. During the night I was talking and smiling to people while handing them these drinks, I was myself and enjoying the moment. At one moment one lady came to me and give me a hand in a little strange way, the way I never got the hand before.
So I said myself, wau let’s try what’s gonna happen there. So I shook her hand and there was a folded £5 note in her arm. I totally didn’t expect that but I played along so we shook hands while talking for about 10 seconds and then she turns around and left. It made me think about how strong treating people nice can really be.
As I test my abilities this was a sign I passed the test, haha. Impressive Body Language is an important part of our everyday life and when you treat people well with respect and you show them you value them and also you can smile alongside all of the respect, you will be carried high. A lot of people working in the hospitality industry and not just there are so busy with their egos that they forget to smile and treat people nice.
It is not an easy job if you want to do it properly. When you will sell more than just a food or coffee, but a piece of yourself in every piece of the food you sell, you will feel more fulfilled at the end of the day and as a nice bonus, you get a bigger tip…on a free event. 🙂
